Emotional Rollercoaster? Buckle Up.
When you find out you’re expecting, REACT. Seriously, let it all out. Excitement, shock, fear—whatever’s brewing in that brain of yours. This is a life-changing moment, and your partner deserves to see you feel it.
But remember: the first trimester is a delicate time. You might be bursting to tell everyone, but hold off until your partner gives the green light. This is their call. We chose not to tell people, but we regret it. Secrets do not become us. We want support in the good times and the hard times. Aafamily and close friends thing rather than a public announcement for the next baby.
Now, let’s talk symptoms. Nausea, fatigue, and general ickiness are common, and they’ll need your support. Naps, hydration, and cuddles—basically, be on standby to help with anything that makes them feel even 1% better.
Things might get tense. Pain, hormones, and the unfairness of biology can (will) strain your relationship. Hang in there. Your presence matters even when it feels like there’s “nothing you can do.” I repeat, this is hard for you and your partner.
Physical: Stay Engaged
- Stay active: Go for walks together (if they’re up for it) or hit the gym. The better shape you are in the better you will be ready for the physical onslaught of child.
- Take pictures: These moments fly by. This will be a recurring theme. You’ll thank yourself later. Retro pre bump photos anyone?
- Attend appointments: Be there for every OBGYN visit. Make the time. This is important. Show your partner your support up front. ALSO, talk about your OBGYN. Is this the right fit? What don’t you know, or understand that you’d like to?
Material Must-Haves
I stocked up on the essentials to make their life easier. Even if they didn’t eat them, I did.
- Ginger and peppermint: Teas, candies, or lozenges find what works for you to help with nausea and other unpleasant bodily adjustments that will start happening.
- Prenatal vitamins: If they haven’t already, help them get the good stuff. Check with the doc first.
- Skin Care: TALK TO YOUR PARTNER BEFORE PURCHASE. Do they want to start moisturizing to potentially ease stretching pain?
- Comfort: I kept a constant supply of chocolate and bought a foot massager for starts.
And hey, start thinking about a thoughtful gesture for a gender reveal (if you’re doing one). Keep it simple; it’s really just an excuse to party. Or go all out and throw a rager. Whatever works for you, but no pressure!
Your Mission: Support, Support, Support
This trimester is all about adjusting. Be emotionally available, physically present, and logistically prepared. This is the first leg of a marathon, and your chance to start making your role as the non-carrying partner vital — so embrace it. You’ve got this, BabyDad.
